498A Harrassment Diary

Things getting craziest now!

2005-11-16T17:37:00.000-08:00

My life has become worse than hell. I sometimes feel like I should end my life but my daughter, my schoolgoing brothers, sisters and age old parents... they all are dependent on me.

Things are getting worsen everyday. I am ashamed to say this but tonight when I came back home after a hectic day of work to find some peace and prepare for my MBA papers, she started nagging as usual. She is to take her on outing tommorrow as she is bored by now. I resisted saying that I am preparing for my MBA papers and exam is on head so I must study and we could go for outing after my exams. This argument made her violent and she locked the door from outside leaving the daughter with me. My 2 years old daughter started crying as she also disconnected the power supply from outide the room. Duuhhhhh.... what is she up to, I asked her and she replied bluntly "tumhari barbadi, beizzatti... bas aur kuch nahi..." and she opend fire from her mouth.

I am saddened and hurt deeply today. I have already lost my self respect and now losing my interest to live further. What's in a life where I just have to go through all this shit and I can't even complain. If I do I am dragged to police station with plenty of flase allegations that I have been beating her up. My brother had also come and was beating her. Even parents have come and tortured her. The police simply listens to her and when she is away asks for money and compromise with her or be ready for dire consequences. Hell!

Shame on me why I was born in India? Even if I was born why did I study and tried to make a living for my family and myself. Why did I marry in India... Is this the country I am proud of? I hardly believe so. It doesn't let me lead a normal life. Not even abnormal life. It's worst than I could have imagined.

Why would someone make such harsh law without knowing it's consequences if misued. Shame on him... shame on him he must have been a drunkard.

But no I am wrong. This law is there for last 20 years and everyone is blind. Nobody cares today if I am not even allowed to die with peace.

She tortured my daughter and called up police

2005-11-14T12:50:00.000-08:00

My daughter was crying today for something and she brought a match box and burnt a stick. I thought she was just scaring the little kid but no God she touched the burning stick on my daughter's hand and the little baby shouted too loud. I couldn't see this and slapped my wife. She immediately ran to police station. I took my daughter to a nearby chemist shop for some anti burn lotion. My daughter was still crying so I decided to give her a ride on my bike as she enjoys it too much.

Suddenly I got a call on my mobile from police station and the officer asked me to come there as my wife was making a scene there and accusing me of beating her badly. Surprisingly she was even accusing me that I had burnt the daughter in her had and have kidnapped her. I had come accross an NGO (Save Indian Family) and I thought I should go to them for some advice as this is like a routine for her go to police station and harrass me.

One of the members of this NGO who is also a lawyer advised me that I should go to police station and cooperate them in investigation. As soon as I arrived there the office slapped me as he was too angry to see my wife crying. He asked me why I was beating her and why did I kidnap my daughter. I explained everything and asked how could I kidnap my own daughter. After some more questioning the office got convinced that she was lying totally and let me go back home with her.

She called up police again for no reason

2005-10-26T12:36:00.000-07:00

We are shifted to Delhi considering the electricity problems in Ghaziabad. Life has been miserable in last few days and it doesn't seem to be getting better soon...

It's durgapuja time and we all decided to join our parents on this annual festival. I asked my wife if she was also interested in going there and she denied initially. I offerred her that if she doesn't want to go to my parents I could leave her to her own parents house and she could this festival as well and then she agreed to go. We were all prepared to leave for our native home and I took her to the vehicle and we are ready to go but suddenly she changed her mind and said she doesn't want go and I could if I want. I thought it was not good to argue at this time so I give her 500 rupees extra and left with my brothers and sisters for native home.

As soon as we left she called up police and complained that we all had fled away from delhi after beating her up badly and she even informed her parents and the women activist falsely.

I came back to her after festival and she was violent like anything. She came out from the flat and started shouting and abusing me in front of neighbours. It continued for an hour atleast and everyone advised me to keep quite as she had probably gone mad. She then called up police again and police took me to police station. They asked me why was I beating her and I asked them they could investigate from neighbours that she was abusing me for last one hour and falsely accusing me of beating her. After some more questioning police let us go back home and live peacefully.

She called up police for no reason

2005-08-07T12:06:00.000-07:00

Right since she threw my brothers and sisters out she has become too offensive and my life is getting miserable by everyday. She would not cook for me, talk with me with abusive language, throw things on and often beat my daughter in front me. I am seeing some of the worst days of my life sufferring deep mental harassment.

One day I noticed my bike's keys are missing. I started searching the entire house but no luck. I asked her if she has seen the keys and she replied with bad mouth. I thought I should better search myself. But she continued her shouting and started saying that this is just starting and she would make my life even worse. I requested her that I was getting late and I had to go on an urgent call but she did not return the keys. It was clear from her talkings that she had kept the keys to trouble me so I started search her things and then she suddenly hitting her head on the wall, burn her hair with match stick, teared off her clothes and ran outside the door. I was just shocked why she did that and about half an hour later she returned with two policemen.

They asked me I had to come with them to police station. I went with them and there they asked me why was I beating my wife. They said that my wife is also accusing me that I have been beating her for dowry demand and she made several more allegations. I explained them everything and after realizing all the facts and sensing that my wife was lying to them just for troubling me they allowed to come back home. They asked us to sign an agreement that we would not quarrel again (they suggested I should sign this as formality).

Brothers and Sisters thrown away

2005-07-24T11:47:00.000-07:00

We came back to our delhi home where I was staying with my younger brothers and sisters. It was a sunday and we three brothers as usual went outside to play cricket. Suddenly we got a call from home and it was our sister. She was crying and said that my wife was beating her badly. Even we could hear beating sound on phone. We immediately rushed to where we found her beating our sister. I pulled my wife and stopped her from beating. But then she turned on to my brothers and started exploiting them that they had sexual relation sister and that why we all were staying together. She then started throwing things on them and abusing them with dirty words. She pulled my sister again and when I tried to stop she turned violent. She warned us that she would run to police if I intervented and she would complain that we were beating her trying to kill. We got scared and then she pulled them outside the house and closed the door from inside. She also locked me inside the room. My brothers and sister were even not allowed to take their clothes and they had to spend 5-6 hours on railway station in the same clothes without even slippers. God damn it!

Social Insult and Harassment

2005-07-18T11:20:00.000-07:00

My parents called up and informed me that my inlaws have come with about 20 people (some of them relatives) without even informing us and it seems like something is wrong. A couple of hours my mother was on phone. She was crying and requested me to come there as my inlaws had to discuss something with me. I asked them to give the phone to inlaws so I could ask them what is the issue. But none of them took the phone and I could hear them saying "iski maa ke hath pair tod do tabhi ladka aayega" and phone was disconnected. I was shocked and shaken and I decided to go there as soon as possible. My father called up again and asked almost begging when I was coming. I requested him again if he could bring one of them to talk to me. Finally my elder sisters father inlaw responded and I asked him what was the issue. He said I should come ASAP and I requested if he could give me some time because I had some important tasks to do here. He showed up little polite and requested my inlaws that I could come on Monday.

I was there on due time and they had said to come in morning on Monday. Some neighbours and other relatives were there to understand the issue and get a solution but by evening nobody came. Meanwhile my neighbours told me how badly my inlaws and his relatives and some of his criminal type men behaved with my parents. They abused and harassed my parents like and even warned to kill them if they would not put of relations with me and disown me legally.

Finally my inlaws came in the evening again with about 30 people with them and they had a women activist with them as well this time. She came up and introduced herself as women cell president of the other district and also said that she is women congress cheif for that district. She started asking me why we were troubling the girl and if we know that we all could be put in jail. I said she could ask my wife herself what the issues she had and thus things will be clear. My wife started blaming us with false dowry demand. She complained straightway that I was asking for Rs. 1 lacs as dowry and her father was not able to pay that money we all were troubling her. Listening to this even the women activist herself got angry with my wife because she had probably told other complaints to her before coming here. The women activist herself agreed that my wife was lying about dowry demand complaint on us but we should resolve the dispute.

I explained how badly my inlaws were mentoring my wife and that is why she was making all the issues. I told her the entire story how they have been troubling us. She verified those facts and agreed it was wrong with us. Finally she suggested that I should give it a try staying with my wife seperately and I agreed to it for a short period of time to see if she would stay happy away from my parents.

Greedy inlaws!

2004-10-12T01:05:00.000-07:00

Knowing the fact that the dowry case was not filed against us from her relatives, my parents decided to visit our native home back in Jharkhand. As soon as they arrived my greedy inlaws visited them and apologized for their behaviour and siad that they wanted to send her back to us. My parents had no objection as they looked ashamed themselves. The next day I received a call from my inlaws asking me as where they should send my wife. I had only words that if you elders have settled it out and you think that she will lead a peaceful life and would not insult my parents again I would respect what you elders have decided. Since in our indian family system elders and their opinions are highly respected.

Surprisingly my father in law came with her here in Delhi and when I asked why they came here as they were supposed to send her to my parents. My father-in-law mischievely and falsely said that he had gone there but my parents did not accept her to keep with them. I immediately called up my parents and asked if my father inlaw had gone to them with my wife and they were surprised. My father asked me give the phone to my father inlaw and asked him if he was joking and my father inlaw rudely replied that why should he go and leave his daughter with them. He had married her to me so he had interest with me only and not with them.

Her relatives came to know all the crap finally!

2004-08-12T00:59:00.000-07:00

Month passed on and no communication happened among us. We used to listen stories that my father inlaw has already filed a case against us and if we go there we will be arrested immediately. Feared with these stories we did not even dare to go back to our native home and take care of that and we all stayed here in delhi waiting for worse.

Few months later her uncle came with some relatives on his way to visit Vaishno Devi. They all met us and asked us what all had happened. We told the entire story to them and they all were shocked how my inlaws and my wife could do all this. They said they had come asking us why were not taking her back but they are shocked how they have done all the crap and how they have rumored the stories of our arrest. They went back in shame and asking us to excuse them as they were not knowing the reality although they did smell something was wrong from inlaws side as they had heard of a good reputation about us from our neighbours and relatives.

Her cruelty resumed back...

2004-01-07T07:35:00.000-08:00

She was recovering by time and so her behaviour was changing. She started abusing my mother, father and sister again and our life everyday is going worse and worse. She would ask me to throw my parents away or she would kill our 5 month old daughter and me as well. I phoned my inlaws and they replied with threatenings everytime.

We finally decided that we should go and meet and them discuss this problem among relatives. All relatives and neighbours met and had different opinios. No body was able to believe how my father-in-law has got her discharged before the due time to join the marriage ceremony and dance programme and the cruelty she was doing with us. Everyone ashamed my father-in-law for his acts and the way he was mentoring her to go cruel with us. They finally suggested that she should be sent back to her inlaws for some so my inlaws and relatives could guide her to avoid behaving rudely with us and lead a happy life.

Apendix attack and threatenings

2003-12-25T23:59:00.000-08:00

Life was going on leaving all the mess up behind. Suddenly one sunday she complained ample stock pain and we rushed to the nearby Majidia Hospital. The doctors said they need to operate immediately and they said that case was worst critical. I called up my inlaws and informed them about her serious illness and also that doctors are saying that the case is worst critical and asking me to sign up the a bond before they go for operation. But my father-in-law's behaviour on phone was strange. He responded like nothing worse was happening and here we all family members including a couple of our neighbours were on our toes and not able to decide what we should do. The doctors asked us for arranging some blood and medicines and we arranged all that. Several rounds of x-rays and ultrasounds went through and were facing a bill of about rs. 15000 by afternoon. Doctors asked us to arrange for about Rs. 50000 as a deposit for the operation. As a few days back we were hit by robberies we were in financialy worst situation and this we had already spent Rs. 15000. We had no relatives or friends here who could help us so finally our neighbours and other people in hospital suggested us to go for charity hospital. We immediately rushed to Safdarjung hospital and she was admitted there. The kind doctors took over from there. My father-in-law came 2 days later. The doctors finally decided to operate the third day. We had to hire a maid there in hospital as my mother was looking after my 4 months old baby and my younger sister was taking care of all the household work. My father-in-law apologized that he did not bring any female person with him as he did not considered the illness ot be so big (we don't what we could said to make him believe this). The doctors finally diagonsed blown up appendix in her stomac and operated her and myself and one of my friends donated blood for her operation. Next day my friend and myself were advised to take rest and we came back home. My father used to do rounds of home and hospital and used to sleep there in the hospital itself along with my brother and father in law. Two days later incidently they came home for taking evening lunch and my father-in-law came back home getting her discharged before the time doctors suggested. He explained that he had to join his niece's marriage ceremony and specially that a folk dance programme was organized on the wedding. I objected how come this dance programme and wedding was important if his daughter is operated two days back even how could he get her discharged before the the time doctors suggested. He replied rudely that as he has already married his daughter with me it was all my duty to take care of her and he has no interest. He just came to see if her daughter was alive or not and if he could book us for dowry death case...

She crossed all the limits

2003-11-16T15:54:00.000-08:00

Okay we are back to Delhi and started living together. Everyone in my house looks busy whole day looking after the baby girl and my wife and I hate this because there is some ritual that I can't see my baby girl until she we arrange a "Puja".

As we came to know the Puja can be done properly back in Jharkhand only my parents finally allowed me to see my baby girl. Oh my goodness I felt like I met a lively Goddess!

Days were going in full bloom and life was back to normal again. Good things started on business front as well because I wanted to shut off the office and sit back at home to do some freelancing work along with my brother by my all staff pretested and they requested me to open the office again. I had to give it to their request and we all started the office again taking computers on rent (one of the girls in our staff arranged for this). As I could see the efforts all staff members had brought to open up the office again I decided to promote one of them to take the charge of office and I decided to operate from my residence. Things worked and everything was going fine. I was enjoying my work-at-home environment.

Suddenly one day I noticed my younger weeping in front of my mother. I asked her what was the issue and after asking repetitively she opened what all my wife has been doing with my sister. She was using my sister for every household work like a maid putting aside her studies. My wife was even threatening her to stop allowing food if she brought up this matter to anyone. We all were so shocked again. I called my wife and asked what was the problem and why was she behaving like this with my little sister. She blown up suddenly and took on my mother's hair and started shouting that everyone should quit the house immediately. I objected and took her in my room.

There was pin drop silence in the house. No one except my wife would eat and no one would talk to each other. I could even see my father weeping sometimes. Later my wife apologized to my parents and promised that she was in anger after talking to her mother and that her mother misguided her. We all asked if there is any problem she could tell us and we would work together to iron out the issue. She looked ashamed and said it's just alright and that she doesn't want to talk to her mother from now on...

We decided to live together

2003-11-03T08:06:00.000-08:00

Four months since my father-in-law took my wife away from me and no word from them. When I tried to call on a couple of occassions they put down the phone without talking.

I was going through deep humilation as I was ashamed of this incident among my friends and coworkers, it started affecting my performance. My parents could not see me in this condition and we all decided to live together in Delhi. My started looking for a suitable place where he could start his business that he used to run (a PCO/Photostate shop) back in Jharkhand.

One morning we got the bad news that there has a robbery in our office and my all computers were stolen. I was shocked again as I had just lost my business as well while my father was still looking to setup back his business here. We lodged FIR but police is not able to do anything in this case and my business went down.

Then came the good news that my wife has given birth to baby girl. We got a reason cheer and bring our momentum back. We all got happy and my mother asked me to go and bring my wife washing off all the anger from my mind I had due to that incident. I was not convinced if I should go and bring her as she even does not bother to talk to me yet.

Finally my mother ordered me that I must do it as she can't wait to see the baby girl and I went there to bring my wife back. I thought she must have forgotten all the dirt she was blowing when she left but no she accused my elder sister and her husband who arranged our marrige for spoiling her life. I brough this matter in front of entire family there and they all looked helpless and ashamed of her behaviour. Her uncle and some of her other relatives promised me that they have been guiding her that she should not continue her agressive behaviour and that she would behave well from now on.

I was not convinced as I could clearly see her attitude had gone more agressive but they all made her come back with me and I finally thought may be she will change a bit as she has beome a mother. She would show some maturity from now on...

She insulted my mother...

2003-05-28T02:58:00.000-07:00

My mother along with my younger brother arrived the very next day. The next when I was in office my brother informed me that my inlaws have come with two unknown men (later introduced as relatives) but the bad thing is that my mother-in-law has behaved badly with our mother. My mother opened the door and my mother-in-law blazed the question "AAp yahan kaise?". My mother said come in.. it's my son's house and I can visit him anytime. My mother-in-law next fired the question on brother "aapne jhooth kyon bola ki ham nahi aa rahe?". My brother was equally shocked because he never talked with mother-in-law before.

He politely asked "Maaji meri aapse baat hi kab hui?". Then she shouted "Aap itne chhote hain umra me aur mujhe jhooth banate sharam nahi aatt?". My mother intervened and asked my brother go and arrange some snacks and cold drinks for them. When my brother told all this I said cool down she is lying and she spoke to me in the same language a day before yesterday. She seems to be crazy.

In the evening when I came back to home from office I found them discussing something. I went for a bath and as soon as I came back they called me to sit with them. I joined them and then to my greatest surprise my father-in-law fired the question on me "Aap kyon meri ladki ko torture kar rahe hain?". Shocked and furious I could not guess what was wrong. The next fire was from one of the unidentified relatives who was in almost my age and threatened me "Anzam acha nahi hoga, sudhar jao warna main hath pair tod dunga".

Before I could react to the situation my wife came forward (my mother-in-law standing behind her) and started shouting "Mujhe khana nahi milta, kapda nahi milta, nahane dhone ko sabun surf tak nahi milta..." My mother intervened "beta aisa kyon bol rahi ho, khane-pine ki kami bhagwan dushman ko bhi na kare.. ye kaisa ilzam hai?". Then my mother-in-law started shouting and this continued for two hours.

Finally they suggested me I should keep my mouth shut or be ready for the worst with me and my family. I politely asked that I still have no idea why all this is happening and what you really want. I think you were coming here to guide your daughter for that shameful incident but you are now putting allegations on me?

He said he will come again tomorrow and everybody left my house. We all were shocked and shamed as they were shouting and neighbours must have heard all this. We used to carry a respectful and peaceful life in this flat even when we were staying here as bachelors and now this all has happened. Who is going to find out that my inlaws were shouting on us for no reasons.

Next morning my father-in-law came along with other old aged relative who was introduced as uncle of my wife and I was shocked again as my wife came out with her suitcase and they all left my house. One of my neighbours whom I used to call my elder sister was coming to my house knowing the incident and she got them in the way. She stopped my father inlaw and asked them why they have done all this? As she knew what all had happened in past few days and infact my wife used to be with her in her free time (she was taking care of my wife as guardian till date) she explained my father-in-law that my wife is guilty of doing all this. She should have not done all this. My father-in-law for the second came down of his attitude and asked for excused that he got carried away with the incident. He also accepted that he knows that his daughter is short tempered so he is taking her back home for few days until this issue goes cool.

My elder sister objected and said she has to live whole life with and if she is short tempered why did they counsel their daughter that she has live in peace and harmony with us. But instead of this why did they alleged us of torture in front of their daughter. Isn't it going to support her aggressive attitude toward her husband and inlaws and will she respect anyone after this kind of support from you. My father inlaw apologized for everything and literally left from their along with my wife leaving all of us in deep shock and distress.

Why did she do it?

2003-05-23T03:53:00.000-07:00

We are back to Delhi again after our Holi festival and enjoying our married life. Adding to happiness my wife has conceived so everyone has forgotten everything and we are living life back to full pleasure. We also visited several temples including Iskon.

It's Sunday and I am in my office finishing some pending work. Suddenly my brother calls up and says "Bhabhi kahi chali gayi hai mujhe bahar se lock karke!!!! Maine gate kisi se khulwaya aur idhar udhar dekha to kahi nahi hai..." I was shocked where did she go? She is new to Delhi and she doesn't have any close relatives as well here.. hmm...

I immediately called my friends who live nearby my flat to search her and I left office. By the time I reached home I saw her back and my friends were there along with my brother. I asked everyone what happened. They said that she is just back herself and hasn't talked with anyone.. I thanked my friends and came in our room. I asked her where had she gone but she replied nothing. I kept asking and she finally said after few minutes that she went to a PCO to call her parents. I asked if she had any problem but she kept her mouth shut.

I immediately called up my inlaws and asked my father-in-law if she called them... They said No. She has not called them since morning when we both talked to them using my mobile. My father-in-law also got curious what happened. I told him that she has locked my brother inside and went outside without telling anything. We all were searching and now when she is back she tells that she called up you. My father-in-law started apologizing to forget this incident and do not let my parents know otherwise it harm his reputation against them. Also he promised that he is coming here and he will talk to her.

I kept my cool because of his request and did not talk to anyone else about this matter until he comes here. One hour later I got a call on my mobile my mother-in-law and she started shouting on me why am I torturing her daughter and if I have any sense of humanity. Crazy I told her that it's nothing me and explained the entire incident again. But she kept shouting and asked me what is the problem I am giving that she had to leave my house locking my brother inside. I urged that I know nothing but she became abusive now and told me that I should know because I am her husband. She even threatened that she is coming in a couple of days and she would give me a lesson.

All shocked and amazed with this incident I disconnected the phone and called up my parents. Then my father suggested that as it looks good from my father-in-law and only my mother-in-law seems to have gone mad, my mother would come with my younger and would talk to my mother-in-law and settle down the issue.

Holi - off colored!

2003-03-27T06:38:00.000-08:00

I went to my parents to celebrate Holi festival and knowing that my newly wed is already I was very excited and happy. It was glorious for two days.

Third day her younger brother came and asked us to go and celebrate Holi with them. I said if this was the case someone elder from your family should have come to invite or they should have called us. You are too young to invite us to your house on such a big festival. He probably talked to his parents but no invitation from them and we all continued to enjoy our time as the Holi was 2 days later.

God knows what happend and next morning my wife did not get up on time, she even kept inside her room. We thought she might not be feeling well but when I asked what was wrong she started shouting. She was probably why we did not go to her parents to enjoy Holi. But I explained it's just not logical to go if nobody has invited us. Otherwise our relatives and neighbours would pass on comments. But she made it a big issue and started abusing my mother and siter with dirty langaues.

We just could not believe if she could react like this for no reasons. If her parents really wanted us to be there with them, they should have asked my father as these kinds of discussions are known to be discussed among guardians in our society and culture. But she did not listen to all this and only stopped all her "drama" when some neighbours interrupted finally.

They all suggested her it's only reasonable that her father should have talked to my father if he really wanted us to be there on this festival...

She insulted my father...

2003-03-07T00:36:00.000-08:00

My fathre went for "Vidaii" to take her back to our parental home in Jharkhand. But what the heck they are refusing to send her with my father? They say that I should have come to my. I couldn't because I am here in Delhi and can't run back to home every month so what's wrong if my father has gone there for the "Vidaii" ?

I called up to discuss something important with my father when he was still there for the "Vidaii". After speaking to my father it was my father-in-law who asked if I wanted to speak to my wife. I said okay yes! But after 2 minutes of hold my wife's elder sister came and asked whom I want to talk? I said to my wife... Next she asked "What I want to talk?"... Geez what's wrong with her and how do I tell her what I want to talk to my wife... I said nothing as she was my wife's elder sister.

Then she started shouting... I should not do what I am doing. I should not torture her on phone. We girls are not of old era and we are now advanced. We will not keep our mouth shut....

I thought she must be crazy and disconnected the phone. Later on I came to know that she had already insulted my father in front of everyone in her family that he should not have not come for "Vidaii"...

Who is she to tell this to my father. My father is elder than him and she is like his daughter... But nobody opposed from her family and she kept on shouting...

My father did not say not say anything to her or to anybody as it was all so shocking to him. He never had met any such girl who could go so abusive in front of elders for no reason...

Wrong bell from Inalws...

2003-01-29T00:18:00.000-08:00

My father-in-law came for her "Vidaii"!

Hmm he did not ask or inform my parents that he was coming for "Vidaii". As per our rituals my father-in-law should have requested my father for the Vidaii as he is the guardian of our family. But amazing he did not do that.

Is it the wrong bell? May be it is too early to predict something. May be he forgot to call them... But what the heck he did not inform my parent even after Vidaii?

Is it just misbehave?

2003-01-06T23:29:00.000-08:00

I just can't believe it! How can she neglect to serve lunch to my father?

We were married just a couple of weeks back and my father who has come here along with my sister to bring her here because I had to come back to delhi because of urgent calls from my clients. They have arrived here last night and I was happy till yet. But she shocked me too early by bluntly saying that she would not serve lunch to my father because she doesn't want to.

Well it may be she is a bit young and may be she is overwhelmed by the brightness she is seeing in Delhi and thinks she has crossed all the barriers and now she is free. But still my father is our guardian and her new guardian. She should pay respect to him. May be it's a kiddish behaviour and we should not predict something worse at this time. May be she will get mature by time and understand she should respect elders...

Okay I am taking my father to take lunch at a restaurant and may it will give her some sense that she should have not said that.

She later apologized that she did a mistake and she will not repeat it.. things are looking better again...